In an age where screens are ever-present and digital habits begin early, many parents worry that technology is driving a wedge between them and their children. But when used mindfully, tech can be a powerful tool for connection, not division. The key lies in co-using technology — sharing screen time in a way that fosters conversation, creativity, and trust.

What is Co-Using Technology?

Co-using technology means engaging with digital devices together — whether it’s watching a film side-by-side, playing video games as a team, or exploring educational apps with your child. It shifts the experience from passive consumption to shared interaction. Think of it as the modern version of reading a book together or playing a board game, just with a digital twist.

Why It Matters

Children don’t just learn from what we say about tech — they learn from how we use it. By co-using devices, you’re modelling balanced screen habits, demonstrating digital citizenship, and opening the door for meaningful dialogue. It also shows that you’re genuinely interested in their world, not just regulating it.

Ideas for Co-Using Tech with Your Child

1. Watch and Discuss Together
Instead of letting them disappear into a tablet, sit and watch a YouTube video, TV show or short film together. Ask open-ended questions:

• “What do you think about that character’s choice?”

• “Would you have done the same thing?”

2. Play Games as a Team
Join them in games like Minecraft, Mario Kart, or Roblox. You don’t have to be a gaming expert — in fact, they’ll love teaching you how it works. Cooperative play encourages teamwork, patience, and a few laughs along the way.

3. Learn Something New Together
Use apps like Duolingo to pick up a new language, or try coding basics with platforms like Scratch. This makes learning collaborative and positions you as a partner in their discovery, not just a homework enforcer.

4. Create Digital Projects
Try co-creating a TikTok dance (in moderation), building a Canva design, or making a short film on your phone. This turns screen time into a creative, memory-making activity.

5. Use Tech to Start Offline Activities
Use Pinterest to plan crafts or cooking sessions, or explore Google Earth to choose your next local adventure. Technology can be the spark for real-world experiences.

Set Boundaries Together

Rather than imposing limits, involve your child in creating screen rules that make sense for your household. Agree on times for tech use, spaces where screens are off-limits (like during meals or bedtime), and apps that are OK to use. Co-creating these guidelines fosters a sense of responsibility and cooperation.

Keep the Conversation Open

Ask your child what they’re watching, reading, or playing — and really listen to their answers. Regular chats about their digital lives help build trust, so if something upsetting or confusing comes up online, they’re more likely to turn to you.